Lubricants can be a funny subject we’ve discovered. We have customers who swear by them, and then those that balk at the idea – often citing that the use of lubrication must mean there is something wrong with one’s sex life – when its quite the contrary. We’re hoping to dispel a few myths for you with some of the most common questions & enquiries we’ve received over the years along with the answers below.
.Why would I use a Lubricant ?
As far as plain lubricants go, many women suffer from vaginal dryness (especially as we get older, or after menopause), in which case a lubricant enhances and ensures they can enjoy intercourse without pain or experiencing any discomfort.
The right personal lubricant can really do so much for one though (and is perhaps an unsung hero in many respects).
They can offer so much more to our intimate experiences for example by :
- Intensifying and enhancing sensations. A peppermint lubricant for example would tingle !
- Change the way that sex feels – using more for instance can provide for a very wet and slippery sensation…
- Assist with engaging for longer & they’re very useful when you know you & your partner may be engaging in frequent activities – ie : essential for honeymoons or DW’s – we always recommend brides pack in some lube for their honeymoon!
- They can make safer sex safer by reducing the chances that a condom may/will break
- Allowing for experimentation – whether that be with toys or anal play (essential for safety!).
So Flavoured or not?
Clients buy flavoured lubricants for many reasons – mostly to simply make oral sex better (in terms of taste), others just like and enjoy lubricants and find that flavouring is a plus. Some flavoured lubricants on the market also act as more of a lotion – promising a plethora of massage, and edible delights.
Note that flavouring and warming or tingling effects won’t actually improve the function of a lubricant, and many people report that the lubricants with flavour dry up faster than others &/or feel sticky and tacky.
Have any clients had an adverse reaction to Lubricants?
Women are always seeking advice on alternative options after suffering adverse reactions from lubricants. Many have experienced allergic reactions with symptoms such as itching, dryness, soreness or swelling – certainly not pleasant. The problem is more common than we realise, and to be honest – it’s a topic that’s come up at least once at every single home party I have ever presented. What adds to the frustration is that not many customers will return to their local pharmacy or similar retailer to return a lubricant (or toy for that matter) and openly in public proclaim that it made you itch!
The manufacturers then get no negative feedback (or not enough) and continue manufacturing toxic, chemical ridden lubricants and the companies get bigger and bigger – many of which are household brand names we ‘trust’. One brand owns almost 52% of the share of the market, yet studies have been done that prove it is harmful… but the consumer is still none the wiser. Scary.
Based on its many positive attributes there are few reasons not to have a lubricant handy, but choosing the right one can be tricky.
We found that many of the lubricants on the shelves today contain petrochemicals like Propylene Glycol – a chemical which is used in automotive products like brake fluid and anti-freeze. Even more so contain petrochemical preservatives like Parabens (often hidden under other names like Hydroxybenzoate) which are known mutagens and best avoided in pregnancy. Scary chemicals aside, you’ll also find glycerine and sugars in almost all lubricants – which are known to feed thrush and other yeast infections, plus Glycols which improve the skins ability to absorb chemicals…
The decision for us was therefore very simple – At Deeper Love we do not support any lubricants that contain toxic chemicals or harmful substances – choosing safe, non-toxic organic options for our customers instead.
When choosing a lubricant – what ingredients should I be wary of?
There are plenty to list, but these are just some of the more common and scary ingredients one might find in their ‘trusted’ brands:
- Glycols– which improve the skins ability to absorb chemicals
- Glycerin, Sugars & sweeteners – known to feed thrush & other yeast infections and allergic reactions
- Petro chemicals – which coat the skin and prevent it from performing its natural functions and have been linked to cancers.
- Phthalates – a known carcinogen
- Silicone – which coats the skin and does not allow it to breathe.
- Carboxmyethlycellose/Polyscorbate 60 – are thickeners, which have been shown to cause cancer in animals.
- Mineral Oil – which is a Petroleum product, and Petroleum never turns out to be a good choice for anything. It is also used in Vaseline and Baby oil for example.
- Proplyene Glycol – a humectant, is a form of mineral oil. According to research, if the oil contacts skin, it can cause liver and kidney damage, mutations, and convulsions.
- Nonoxynol-9 – is an ingredient found in many condoms, which has been shown in some studies to increase chances of STD infection. (Note * Nonoxynol was created as an industrial cleaner. It is so abrasive that it cuts the genitals, increasing the chances of spreading disease!)
What are my safe choices then?
As far as natural & safe options go, there are a handful of safe, organic lubricant manufacturers (Yes, Intimate Organics, Sylk etc). You can look at natural alternatives too – for example olive oil is dated to be one of the oldest known lubricants, and whilst we don’t recommend you start using the kitchen olive oil, we do support the use of organic cold pressed coconut oil and the Sylk lubricant found on our website.
If you have any queries, concerns or tips to add, please chat to us, we’d love to hear your feedback!
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